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In order to give yourself a good personality, you will have to go through steps to ensure your personality development is done correctly. There are a few basic things to consider in this regard. Firstly, it is wise to always be responsible for the decisions you make. Don’t blame others if something is your fault. You should also be considerate of others. Personality development is as much about others as it is about you. Always remain positive in the face of adversity. There is no need to feel down about your lot in life. If something is bothering you, don’t let it get the best of you – remain positive at all times.

Always think before you speak. If you put your foot in your mouth then you are likely to offend others – which will in turn lead to negativity. You should always listen to others as well. As previously stated, personality development has an effect on those around us. Maybe you can help others with their own personality development. In doing so can teach you more about the human condition as a whole. Always be honest – this comes down to being honest to yourself and to others. Your subconscious can throw out cues to people you are lying too.

Don’t be a rumor monger. If you come across some juicy gossip, keep it to yourself. It makes you look petty and foolish if all you ever talk about is the problems or foibles of others. Keep your head in your own business and don’t concern yourself with the business of others. You might find it will come back and bite you in the long term. Also, don’t hold grudges. Life is too short to be walking around angry at others all the time. If someone bothers you then just stay away from them.

Personality development as it is relevant to Sigmund Freud’s theories revolves around the conglomeration of ego, super-ego and id. These three things are combined to represent the psyche of all humans. However, many people find this a simplistic approach when diagnosing treatment that benefits them in regards to personality development. Broken up the ego, super-ego and id perform very diverse functions. The ego is responsible for how we organize ourselves and realistically judge ourselves in regards to the real world. The id is all about what we know as an innate ability – what we sometimes consider our instinctual behavior.

The super-ego is probably the most important in regards to personality development because it is centered on our critical analysis of any given circumstance and our moral bindings in regards to decision making. All of these working in unison give us the traits that spring forth from our personality development. Freud believed that these specific groups were not triggered by parts of our brain – rather, they were actually specific to the mind of the individual. This may seem confusing. Consider this; the mind is a physical thing that resides in our heads. Our mind can be considered our (for lack of a better term) spirit.

These concepts may not have great scientific significance but are worth considering when thinking about personality development. How the mind work in specific circumstances is a mystery. Parts of the brain may lie dormant while some people are undertaking a certain task – however in other people they may become active. Freud’s theory in regard to the ego, id and super-ego do give us something to work with and does form the basis of many modern psychoanalysis treatments. It is hard to say how this model will change over the course of the future; we can consider Freud’s theories the first step in realizing how we act and why.

When ensuring the personality development of a child or even yourself – focus on the positive rather than the negative. Allow your conscious being to filter in only the positive aspects of being alive as it passes through to the subconscious. You will also want to ensure that the same applies for not only things relevant to being alive – but for things that apply to how you treat others, treat yourself and any habits that you may or may not have. The only time that you should allow negativity to enter the subconscious is when it relates to something that may hurt or do you long term harm.

Personality development is all about ensuring you do the right thing to your mental wellbeing order to secrete feelings of happiness. This will infect others around you and will make you a more likeable person. Try and ensure that you are able to treat others in a manner that is conducive to cementing a long term friendship with the person. That way your life will be enriched with the kindness and love of others. Personality development starts with you. Whether it is in regards to your children, students and friends (or family). Don’t let past experiences bring you down.

Take heed for the future by creating a positive buffer around yourself that removes you from the problems of others. Try and offer support in when others need it and remain tethered to reality in order to bring others down to earth in their time of need. If you are positive, then others around you will read this optimism as a sign that the world is not going to end. This will infect them with optimism so that you can remain infused with a positive ambience at all times.  Personality development as it applies to your own mental wellbeing does really come down to the individual.

Piaget was interested in how children went through stages during the phases of their personality development. He took a uniquely sociological approach to exploring the possibilities that revolve around how young minds are developed. He used his own children as the basis for many of his views and spent a lot of time just watching them in order to develop concepts that are now highly regarded in the psychological school of thought. He would also ask children a variety of questions that adhered to a specific frame work. He would then throw in a question that the child was unlikely to expect in order to gauge their reasoning and reaction to an unexpected situation.

Personality development in regards to Piaget’s research stipulates that a child must go through phases of learning in order to build upon knowledge that has been previously learnt. It was his belief that a child must grasp the basic concepts before moving on to more advanced theories as they were relevant to the same topic. This can be seen in the way that we teach children math. First they learn to count. After this they are learnt to recognize the numbers. Then you can start teaching children how to perform basic arithmetic. This continues until you start to get to more advanced mathematical constructs such as algebra – after this you can move onto even more advanced concepts such as calculus.

Piaget was considered a pioneer in the field of personality development. His methods are still in use all over the world. Fields that use his theories are things such as business development, the education system and psychoanalysis. Piaget also studied the developmental phases that an infant goes through prior to reaching middle childhood. He was also interested in the developmental cycle of children who had little external interaction with the world.

You personality has a profound effect on your day to day life. Personality development can make your life easier – especially if some consideration is given to emotional intelligence. Emotion intelligence governs how we read people, how they read us and our reaction to specific events that occur. Your emotional intelligence can be enhanced. Personality development is one such way that this can be accomplished. Coming to terms with how your personality takes control of your life via subconscious cues is one way that you can start to learn to have some control over it.

Emotional intelligence may be affected by a traumatic experience or improper emotional conditioning during childhood. Exploring the issue may help overcome any hindrance that a person have in regards to a specific circumstance or event. For example, if someone who has just lost a loved one talks to you about it and you start telling jokes at their expense – this can be indicative of a low emotional intelligence on your behalf. You have obviously misread the severity of the situation and you have also not adequately judged what their likely reaction will be. Personality development can help you discover why you have reacted this way and introduce steps to overcome this.

While it may be debatable how closely linked personality and emotional intelligence are – it can’t be denied that personality has some effect on how our emotions take hold of our being. It will be harder for someone who is fairly resilient to stress and depression to be mired down with their own problems. Having the will to power through rough times and not becoming depressed about insignificant issues shows a tremendous strength in regards to personality and emotions. Personality development can still help such people reach their full potential. For those of us who are easily upset then it is probably going to have a dramatic change in our emotional intelligence.

People act differently when they know they are being watched. This is largely attributed to personality development and was first noticed by Henry Landsberger after studying the findings recorded during an experiment held at an electric factory called Hawthorne Works. People were found to work harder when they were being studied. This was proven by the fact that during the study productivity increased. After the study had concluded productivity declined. The Hawthorne Effect is often used to describe times when productivity sees a slight improvement for a short period of time. Although the original study that was commissioned was aimed at finding out whether or not the amount of light that a worker was given would have an effect on productivity.

How this relates to personality development is interesting. A person is more energetic and prone to work harder whilst being studied. If you are watching your children then the greater the chance of them doing the right thing – this can transfer to learning as well. If you are actively encouraging your child to work through exercises aimed at learning a new skill it is better to work through the activity with them. Or at the very least, you should consider watching them as they undertake the activity. This will ensure that they are more enthusiastic.

While some scholars argue the existence of the Hawthorne Effect – there is no reason to avoid using techniques that are drawn from the knowledge of it during the personality development stages of your child’s life. If just watching your child can help them accomplish more then why not give it a try. You can experiment with the effects of it pretty easily. Set your child some basic math problems and time them while watching them and then time them when you aren’t watching them.

Our personalities are developed over the course of our lives and shaped by events that influence out behavior and attitudes. Personality development starts from the moment we are born and our resultant personality is shaped by what happens to us. Even if we don’t register the event on a conscious level, our subconscious is making little footnotes about how the event has had an effect on us. While what effect any certain event has on us is a contentious issue in regards to psychoanalytic theory – the basic crux of the idea remains the same. Which is, we are a by product of our own experiences.

A perfect example is how we react to people in general after becoming the victim of any form of abuse. If the abuse was done as a random act while you are walking down the street – those with a poor mental constitution may find themselves unable to walk down the street in comfort. It may take years of therapy and medication to overcome this fear of public places and it can be directly attributed to events that have happened to the victim in the past. Personality development can take a seemingly random event and magnify in the mind’s eye to exuberant proportions.

Personality development is the bane of the human mind set. Whilst there are positives from the resultant effect generated by the good done to us – it is easier for the bad to be forthright in exposing us to undue effects as they occur on the mental stage in our minds. Events that shake us can have a profound physical effect as well. Anxiety that is caused due to our psychological makeup can manifest itself in physical symptoms such as stress headaches, profuse sweating, shakes and an upset stomach. Children who are put through undue stress will find it harder to develop into (mentally) healthy adults.

While researching for this article I came across a term that I had never heard of before called imaginary anchoring. As it applies to personality development, it is about imagining your roll or place in the shoes of someone else who was a great thinker. For example, consider how Jesus would react after finding out his insurance company will not cover his cancer treatment – this is probably the most extreme example I could come up with. In this regard, personality development is about taking the roll of someone else who may be of stronger constitution than you. Imagine how they would react to any specific situation.

Great leaders are known for dealing with the stresses of great responsibility. Your life is likely to be much simpler and in this regard it might not be as applicable. However, you can borrow their strength of character to ensure your own personality development. Consider how a great mind would approach doing something you don’t wish to do but feel obligated to do. Maybe you just feel obligated to do it but you don’t really have to. You just feel responsible. This can be a fairly self-defeating attitude. In this regard it might be worth putting yourself in the shoes of someone who was defiant in the face of oppression.

Personality development and the way it relates to you can be all about keeping your sanity when times are rough. If you are able to grin and bear it when the going gets tough then you are likely to save yourself a lot of heartache in the future. If you are able to fine tune your outlook on specific things so that you are more resilient in the face of adversity then it will do wonders for your self-confidence and problem solving abilities. This can be something that has a long reaching effect on the way you live your life.

Personality development starts as a charitable enterprise in order to reflect upon you as a human being. Practice kindness where ever you go. Even if you don’t know someone who requires health it can leave you feeling good about yourself if you do help them. A good example is stopping to help someone who has broken down on the side of the road. People just keep driving in situations like this because they feel like they are putting themselves in jeopardy by helping someone else. Don’t be like that and keep driving. Helping those in need is part of what makes us a cut above other animals.

Try and practice loyalty as well. If you have a friend who you have known for a long time then don’t let petty squabbles ruin the friendship. Personality development can be all about rising above the day to day problems in human life and staying focused on the bigger picture, which is that we are a world community. If you have worked for someone for a long time – don’t quit for a bigger pay check. The company has probably been good to you in the past and if they haven’t already recognized your contributions to their business they will eventually.

Personality development can be something that involves all of those around you. If you can infect others with your own kindness then they will likely feel honored by it and help others in turn. It can make the world a better place. Don’t walk around with a chip on your shoulder and assume that the world owes you a living. It is likely to be the other way around – you owe the world a living. Think of where your food comes from and what gives you shelter and warmth at night. The world is a big place and life is too short to remain in a constant state of hate.

Your body language tells a lot about how you feel and how you react to certain situations. Your personality development is somewhat dependent on how you will portray yourself to those around you. You might feel like you have a firm grasp of your own reality or what makes you tick, but your body language might let you down in this regard. Your body language takes its cues from your subconscious. If your subconscious is programmed to act in a specific way but you are trying to hide how you really feel through conscious expressions then you are lying to yourself if you assume that you aren’t being read like a book.

Personality development can change how you feel about having to undertake certain tasks. If your significant other wants you go and visit the family over the weekend when you were looking forward to sitting down and watching the sport on television and you relent and go with her – then you will have lied to yourself in saying that you were happy to go. You are likely to have a fairly horrible attitude over the weekend because of it too. You won’t want to be there and your body language will show it. Your significant other is likely to get upset and arguments will follow.

Try and let people know how you really feel. Your personality development is reliant on you being honest with you. It also means that you can then be honest (by showing conviction for what you are saying through your body language) with others. You might be able to say one thing with a straight face while looking someone in the eye and consider it truth, but if your subconscious is squirming then your body language will let you down. You can start by working on your personality development in order to say how you really feel.